"What do we live for if it is not to make life more difficult for each other," but this is not, you shake your heads, what gentle Mr Eliot said.
And before you accuse me of gender stereotypes, let me just explain this jolly experiment of mine: the answers of my fellow 'macho' hubbers on the left contra just me on the right with many wise men on my side.
It is, after all, representation of our time. We can swap genders and sides any time. It is about partners as such, whichever gender they are ...
"We can not learn from one another until we stop shouting at one another, until we speak quietly enough so that our words cna be heard as well as our voices", another clever man said, president Nixon for you, here.
"It must be a peace without victory - only a peace between equals can last." said wise Mr Wison, president of USA from 1856 to 1924.
It applies for whole countries as well as for the partners in one country, one house, one room and one bed.
Experience love and life fully but don't let it to control you as an addiction does. For an addiction to be present, it needs to take over your life.
You have to hand over your power to it and allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self esteem and a sense of value.
Whether it is love or something else, we surely don't want to lose control over ourselves to that extent. Always hold on your own power and trust that everything you want will come to you without sacrificing your integrity.
Let love develop in its own time for like a fine wine, true feelings need nurturing and space. Give your partner as much space and time they need.
Life around us, as well as all individuals in it, come in myriads of shades, to love someone, doesn't mean to grow dependent on other for filling our own life with colours.
Let them go and let them be. Emotional hunger can never be fed by others. You are the one, that can bring the colour back into your life.
Once we realize we are always safe whether we are alone or in a couple, there would be no need to look to others for validation, there comes the time to open the door of our house and welcome our partner and a life companion on the equal ground.