Monday, April 30, 2012

What do you do to live your life big?




When you struggle to find the right words...

for your thoughts you want to express, you know that your world is shrinking.
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for your thoughts you want to express, you know that your world is shrinking.
You try to write your thoughts down to revive your ties to the past.
You try to write your thoughts down to revive your ties to the past.
I have discovered a handwritten letter from 1850 in the historical museum in a small European country I was born.
I have discovered a handwritten letter from 1850 in the historical museum in a small European country I was born.
It makes me think about being human in another time - reading by candle light, a life lived without being able to read at all.
It makes me think about being human in another time - reading by candle light, a life lived without being able to read at all.
Nightfall that brings on absolute darkness. The only heat available is from fire.
Nightfall that brings on absolute darkness. The only heat available is from fire.
When people get sick, they might die, when women give birth neither the child, nor mother may survive.
When people get sick, they might die, when women give birth neither the child, nor mother may survive.
Most people live and die in the exact place they are born.
Most people live and die in the exact place they are born.
Journeys take months and years, if you leave you may never see those poeple who matter to you most.
Journeys take months and years, if you leave you may never see those poeple who matter to you most.
You may not hear any news of them for months, there are no pictures of anyone, only thing you can do is write...
You may not hear any news of them for months, there are no pictures of anyone, only thing you can do is write...
Looking at ink on yellowing paper in my hand I think about the time when people use tools but no machines...
Looking at ink on yellowing paper in my hand I think about the time when people use tools but no machines...
when seasons matter and animals are essential.
when seasons matter and animals are essential.
Childhood is brief and there is no adolescence.
Childhood is brief and there is no adolescence.
There is no vote and you have no say in anything.
There is no vote and you have no say in anything.
You are dead by fifty. Only Sunday off all your working life and the Lord wants you then.
You are dead by fifty. Only Sunday off all your working life and the Lord wants you then.
After few minutes with an ancient letter I am feeling incredibly grateful to be alive today.
After few minutes with an ancient letter I am feeling incredibly grateful to be alive today.
And then, of course, I look at my laptop and wonder...
And then, of course, I look at my laptop and wonder...
...which bit of our life is going to be the most important artefact to people a few generations from now.
...which bit of our life is going to be the most important artefact to people a few generations from now.
I look around on all those places where I spend my holiday...
I look around on all those places where I spend my holiday...
my working days...
my working days...
my life..
my life..
and I realize wherever I look, the words are all around us. Just like yesterday, today also, the words define us...
and I realize wherever I look, the words are all around us. Just like yesterday, today also, the words define us...

Always tell the truth

and feel free.
Said from my perspective,
told in my own words,
words are my passage
to the bigger world.
Little holes in the sky
through which rain
manages to get through.

Words of the bigger world,
that rhymes
freely.
There is no strict form,
just a reason
to ask questions
that I can not answer,
to defend the right
to be wrong,
to repeat one hundred times
that justice delayed
is justice denyed.
To add something
quite deeply personal
and make connection
through poetic images
that talk to me the most.

Words of the bigger world
in small stories
about women,
their loss and longing.
Their loyalty
to those who suffer
daily,
trauma in the eyes,
witnesses of atrocity
literally silenced
has to be revisited
and talked about.

The sweetest words
of them all,
the words to the big women
of the small world.
When was the last time
you have received
a hand-written letter?
That celebration of stillness,
that communion of souls?

My dear old Grandmother,
Mother-in-Law,
God-mother,
auntie,
my dear mother,
lonely women in golden age,
they all say,
it had been some time
since anyone close
has sat down
and written,
pen in hand,
at lenght to them.

A little depth charge from the past.
When I write,
I pour my soul out,
there is no crossing out,
the full consideration
is on the receiver of the letter
yet it is spontaneous
a lovely combination.
Love feeling the writing paper
in my hand
its heaviness,
creaminess,
sensuality.
I see the people,
for whom I write.
A heartfelt letter
carving out a slice of stillness
in a busy day,
a soul-concentration.
The words came strong,
replenishing,
a turning towards authenticity.

I think of the potency of letters
past,
from decades ago:
my grandfather's,
the hand spidery
but the voice strong,
that spiritually softened world
of connection and grace.
Writing sheltered him,
writing shelters me,
from the bigger world
I dream about to enter.

When my Grandmother
received my letter,
she didn't rip open the envelope at once,
but waited for for quietness,
there was something of ritual to it.
It was the shining time
as she read the tonic of my words.

A hand-written letter
arrived
every month
in her letterbox
and filled up
a quiet moment in her heart,
the most immediate breath of life,
the first tiny sun ray of spring,
her heart opens like a landscape
cracking open
after the bitterness of winter,
the world couldn't be bigger,
not for her and not for me.

Emails to my children,
words of happiness
of having them.
We live each day with a light heart
writing to each other
about our truimphs
and our failures
with enough humility
to learn from both.
Everyday words
reminds us
we are more
than our achievements
or mistakes.
We long be free,
and yet we are victims
of our own self image,
slaves to ambitions,
vanity,
ego
and greed.

SMS to my husband
words without obsessions,
life with moderation.
We have found out
long ago,
anything we want too much,
seek too much
and give too much energy to,
will turn around
and bite us,
sooner or later.
Our words
just like us
settled
in the routine,
a well-known pattern of life.

Words to myself,
in my diary,
ready to carry me on,
encouraging me to do anything,
my words
are the living proof
that everything is possible.
The world around you
is just as big
as the words in your mind,
you are what you write....






Sunday, April 29, 2012

We carry love with us everywhere we go...


What is the difference between falling in love and loving?

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Love is an emotional matter

If one partner is more in love than the other and the one who loves more insists on reciprocity to the same degree...
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If one partner is more in love than the other and the one who loves more insists on reciprocity to the same degree...
the other person feels stifled and suffocted, all kinds of negative behaviour starts creeping in...jealousy, possessivness and paranoia.
the other person feels stifled and suffocted, all kinds of negative behaviour starts creeping in...jealousy, possessivness and paranoia.
.jealousy, possessivness and paranoia...
.jealousy, possessivness and paranoia...
Those who were deprived in earlier life of love, emotional sustenance, praise or attention ...
Those who were deprived in earlier life of love, emotional sustenance, praise or attention ...
 tend to grow up more dependent on others for their good feeling and self-esteem.
tend to grow up more dependent on others for their good feeling and self-esteem.
They tend to love blindly and endow the loved one with God-like qualities.
They tend to love blindly and endow the loved one with God-like qualities.
The rose coloured glasses simply never come off even in the face of harsh reality and everyday life.
The rose coloured glasses simply never come off even in the face of harsh reality and everyday life.
People with lack of self value tend to fall in for obsessive love or love addiction.
People with lack of self value tend to fall in for obsessive love or love addiction.
Emotional hunger can never be fed by others.
Emotional hunger can never be fed by others.
Celebrate your diversity, insist on being contradictory, your contrast make your a complex and fabulous individual.
Celebrate your diversity, insist on being contradictory, your contrast make your a complex and fabulous individual.
Someone you are in love with is not superior to you or far more wonderful...
Someone you are in love with is not superior to you or far more wonderful...
neither do you need anyone to stand up for you, speak up for you or make you feel special...
neither do you need anyone to stand up for you, speak up for you or make you feel special...
you have all the qualities you admire in others.
you have all the qualities you admire in others.
Do not look for people who reflect your opposite areas, that way you prevent your own growth.
Do not look for people who reflect your opposite areas, that way you prevent your own growth.
You need to find the confident part of yourself or any of your other polarities.
You need to find the confident part of yourself or any of your other polarities.
Experience love and life fully but don't let it to control you as an addiction does.
Experience love and life fully but don't let it to control you as an addiction does.
For an addition to be present, it needs to take over your life. You have to hand over your power to it...
For an addition to be present, it needs to take over your life. You have to hand over your power to it...
allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self-esteem and a sense of value.
allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self-esteem and a sense of value.
Whether it's love or soemthing else, we surely don't want to lose control over ourselves to that extent.
Whether it's love or soemthing else, we surely don't want to lose control over ourselves to that extent.
Always hold on your power and trust that everything you want will come to you...
Always hold on your power and trust that everything you want will come to you...
without you sacrificing your integrity or compromising your identity.
without you sacrificing your integrity or compromising your identity.

Allow yourself to dream

to trust
your emotions,
to be carried away
with the adventure
of falling in love.

For five and half months
let your hormones lead you
to that enchanting place
where feelings feel more magical,
living so intense
even realists become artists

in this exaggerated state.


You are blind
to anything and anyone
except your beloved one
no end to this wonder
is imaginable.

In the first flush of passion
there is a glow
about you,
suddenly you feel
and you are
very attractive,
invincible
and magical.
Enjoy every minute
of that special time
when everything is possible,
but be aware
the time is ticking by
when the stage
of rose coloured glasses
ends
and you suddenly see
the world
in an ordinary way
again,
it causes quite a shock,
the disappointment
can even make
the person of your desire
undesirable.

Have you been stung by the love bug?
Living in a real world
with a romantic illusion
a false impression,
a fantasy?
Your inability to think
of anything but...
Your heart beats fast
each time you see
wanting only to do
what pleases
and listening to every word
of 'the only one'.

'The only one',
who appears to have qualities
you think you lack,
who reminds you of someone
so close
you once feel secure with
in your childhood home.

'The only one',
you hear about
in countless love songs,
romantic poems
and social ideals.
You believe
in order to be happy
you need to find your mate
to feel complete.

When you come back
crashing to earth
at a thudding rate
with eyes bruised
rose coloured glasses
smashed
heart broken
you become
disillusional,
emotionally guarded
even cynical,
fully aware
the perfect person
of your dreams
does not exist.

Once you realize,
you are alone,
but you are safe,
you start to praise yourself,
value yourself
and love yourself
as a complete human being.

Love is not actually something,
we get from outside world,
like inner joy,
sexual energy,
creativity and spirituality,
love is part of our make-up,
a natural birthright
and always available.

You carry love with you
everywhere you go,
That is love affair with life,
you can hold onto forever.
It will not let you down
as people can,
because none of us
is perfect
and cannot be responsible
for the happiness of others.

Love will creep up,
again and again,
when you least expect it.
Allow yourself to dream,
take a ride on wings of love.
You are not desperate
anymore
and needy,
you are alive,
enjoying your own
self-loving journey.
You will know,
the real love,
turning inwards
as much as out,
shares and doesn't demand,
given freely
enjoyed by both.
Friendly,
respectful
and full of joy.

Once you feel the real love,
let it develop
in its own time,
for like a fine wine,
true feelings
need nurturing and space.

True lovers know
each of them
is complete
and perfect in themselves.
They don't need each other
to feel fullfilled
just life is better when shared.

Falling in love
is just a dream.
Loving is everything.

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