What is the difference between falling in love and loving?
61Love is an emotional matter
If one partner is more in love than the other and the one who loves more insists on reciprocity to the same degree...
the other person feels stifled and suffocted, all kinds of negative behaviour starts creeping in...jealousy, possessivness and paranoia.
.jealousy, possessivness and paranoia...
Those who were deprived in earlier life of love, emotional sustenance, praise or attention ...
tend to grow up more dependent on others for their good feeling and self-esteem.
They tend to love blindly and endow the loved one with God-like qualities.
The rose coloured glasses simply never come off even in the face of harsh reality and everyday life.
People with lack of self value tend to fall in for obsessive love or love addiction.
Emotional hunger can never be fed by others.
Celebrate your diversity, insist on being contradictory, your contrast make your a complex and fabulous individual.
Someone you are in love with is not superior to you or far more wonderful...
neither do you need anyone to stand up for you, speak up for you or make you feel special...
you have all the qualities you admire in others.
Do not look for people who reflect your opposite areas, that way you prevent your own growth.
You need to find the confident part of yourself or any of your other polarities.
Experience love and life fully but don't let it to control you as an addiction does.
For an addition to be present, it needs to take over your life. You have to hand over your power to it...
allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self-esteem and a sense of value.
Whether it's love or soemthing else, we surely don't want to lose control over ourselves to that extent.
Always hold on your power and trust that everything you want will come to you...
without you sacrificing your integrity or compromising your identity.
Allow yourself to dream
to trust
your emotions,
to be carried away
with the adventure
of falling in love.
For five and half months
let your hormones lead you
to that enchanting place
where feelings feel more magical,
living so intense
even realists become artists
in this exaggerated state.
You are blind
to anything and anyone
except your beloved one
no end to this wonder
is imaginable.
In the first flush of passion
there is a glow
about you,
suddenly you feel
and you are
very attractive,
invincible
and magical.
Enjoy every minute
of that special time
when everything is possible,
but be aware
the time is ticking by
when the stage
of rose coloured glasses
ends
and you suddenly see
the world
in an ordinary way
again,
it causes quite a shock,
the disappointment
can even make
the person of your desire
undesirable.
Have you been stung by the love bug?
Living in a real world
with a romantic illusion
a false impression,
a fantasy?
Your inability to think
of anything but...
Your heart beats fast
each time you see
wanting only to do
what pleases
and listening to every word
of 'the only one'.
'The only one',
who appears to have qualities
you think you lack,
who reminds you of someone
so close
you once feel secure with
in your childhood home.
'The only one',
you hear about
in countless love songs,
romantic poems
and social ideals.
You believe
in order to be happy
you need to find your mate
to feel complete.
When you come back
crashing to earth
at a thudding rate
with eyes bruised
rose coloured glasses
smashed
heart broken
you become
disillusional,
emotionally guarded
even cynical,
fully aware
the perfect person
of your dreams
does not exist.
Once you realize,
you are alone,
but you are safe,
you start to praise yourself,
value yourself
and love yourself
as a complete human being.
Love is not actually something,
we get from outside world,
like inner joy,
sexual energy,
creativity and spirituality,
love is part of our make-up,
a natural birthright
and always available.
You carry love with you
everywhere you go,
That is love affair with life,
you can hold onto forever.
It will not let you down
as people can,
because none of us
is perfect
and cannot be responsible
for the happiness of others.
Love will creep up,
again and again,
when you least expect it.
Allow yourself to dream,
take a ride on wings of love.
You are not desperate
anymore
and needy,
you are alive,
enjoying your own
self-loving journey.
You will know,
the real love,
turning inwards
as much as out,
shares and doesn't demand,
given freely
enjoyed by both.
Friendly,
respectful
and full of joy.
Once you feel the real love,
let it develop
in its own time,
for like a fine wine,
true feelings
need nurturing and space.
True lovers know
each of them
is complete
and perfect in themselves.
They don't need each other
to feel fullfilled
just life is better when shared.
Falling in love
is just a dream.
Loving is everything.
Love and falling in love
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