Wednesday, March 28, 2012

What does it REALLY mean when someone in a relationship says that they "Need To Find Themselves?"



Meet the invisible woman

"What do we live for if it is not to make life more difficult for each other," but this is not, you shake your heads, what gentle Mr Eliot said.
And before you accuse me of gender stereotypes, let me just explain this jolly experiment of mine: the answers of my fellow 'macho' hubbers on the left contra just me on the right with many wise men on my side.
And before you accuse me of gender stereotypes, let me just explain this jolly experiment of mine: the answers of my fellow 'macho' hubbers on the left contra just me on the right with many wise men on my side.
It is, after all, representation of our time. We can swap genders and sides any time. It is about partners as such, whichever gender they are ...
It is, after all, representation of our time. We can swap genders and sides any time. It is about partners as such, whichever gender they are ...
"We can not learn from one another until we stop shouting at one another, until we speak quietly enough so that our words cna be heard as well as our voices", another clever man said, president Nixon for you, here.
"We can not learn from one another until we stop shouting at one another, until we speak quietly enough so that our words cna be heard as well as our voices", another clever man said, president Nixon for you, here.
"It must be a peace without victory - only a peace between equals can last." said wise Mr Wison, president of USA from 1856 to 1924.
"It must be a peace without victory - only a peace between equals can last." said wise Mr Wison, president of USA from 1856 to 1924.
It applies for whole countries as well as for the partners in one country, one house, one room and one bed.
It applies for whole countries as well as for the partners in one country, one house, one room and one bed.
Experience love and life fully but don't let it to control you as an addiction does. For an addiction to be present, it needs to take over your life.
Experience love and life fully but don't let it to control you as an addiction does. For an addiction to be present, it needs to take over your life.
You have to hand over your power to it and allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self esteem and a sense of value.
You have to hand over your power to it and allow it to make you feel dependent upon it for strength, self esteem and a sense of value.
Whether it is love or something else, we surely don't want to lose control over ourselves to that extent. Always hold on your own power and trust that everything you want will come to you without sacrificing your integrity.
Whether it is love or something else, we surely don't want to lose control over ourselves to that extent. Always hold on your own power and trust that everything you want will come to you without sacrificing your integrity.
Let love develop in its own time for like a fine wine, true feelings need nurturing and space. Give your partner as much space and time they need.
Let love develop in its own time for like a fine wine, true feelings need nurturing and space. Give your partner as much space and time they need.
Life around us, as well as all individuals in it, come in myriads of shades, to love someone, doesn't mean to grow dependent on other for filling our own life with colours.
Life around us, as well as all individuals in it, come in myriads of shades, to love someone, doesn't mean to grow dependent on other for filling our own life with colours.
Let them go and let them be. Emotional hunger can never be fed by others. You are the one, that can bring the colour back into your life.
Let them go and let them be. Emotional hunger can never be fed by others. You are the one, that can bring the colour back into your life.
Once we realize we are always safe whether we are alone or in a couple, there would be no need to look to others for validation, there comes the time to open the door of our house and welcome our partner and a life companion on the equal ground.
Once we realize we are always safe whether we are alone or in a couple, there would be no need to look to others for validation, there comes the time to open the door of our house and welcome our partner and a life companion on the equal ground.

Meet the invisible men



"So you've given up on me?"
She said,
amazed
at all this rare talk
from him.


"No,"
he murmured,
unconvinced,
"I need a beer,"
he quickly left.

"Why can't she get it?"
he entered the pub
and found his mate,
"When a guy sez,
he needs to find himself,
it REALLY means
that another girl
has caught his eye
and he wants to see
if he can get her in bed....."
(Meet the invisible man
number one,
and his answer
to this universal question,
how to take your leave
without facing 'the storm'
of consequence).



"So tell her the truth,"
his mate's girlfriend
joined in
handing them
a beer each.

"It's NOT really a lie,
of course,
since he REALLY
"needs to find (himself)"
in her's or his bed........."
(Meet the invisible man
number one,
again.)



"You are just a jerk,"
the girlfriend waved her hand
and moved closer to her boyfriend,
who quickly backed his mate:
"It is better than to say,
he needs more space,
like another bed
with a girl in it,
imagine that?"
They both laughed,
while she punched her boyfriend
angrilly in his rib:
"I will tell her everything,
what you said,
don't worry about that,
and then you done, mate,
no girl and no bed
a hundred mile around here."



"Just calm down, honey,
what is said here,
stays here,"
Her boyfriend said
and ordered another beer.



A barman
filling their glasses again,
looked her in the eye,
with a little sad smile:
"They are full of silly little cliches
like I need some space,
or I need a little more time.
They think that phrases
like that are
'deep' and 'meaningful,
but you know them better,
than that."
(Meet the invisible man,
number two,
his answer,
just like the answer before,
you find
for your reference
in the question
section,
thank you
my fellow hubbers,
for letting me
to use it,
here for you.)
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Tuesday, March 27, 2012

The closer we look, the more alive we become




The dramatic Western Australian landscape, a big backyard to play in...

The sharp points of spinifex covered in a fine coating of the red dust, in swags on the ground, looking at the cooling ocean line...
beauty is around me, beauty is inside me, I am so full of joy, I cry...
beauty is around me, beauty is inside me, I am so full of joy, I cry...
My Aboriginal friend takes my hand: "We are all part of the one web - humans, animals, trees, rivers, stones - all vibrating at different frequencies...
My Aboriginal friend takes my hand: "We are all part of the one web - humans, animals, trees, rivers, stones - all vibrating at different frequencies...
if we damage one single hread of the web, the entire web is affected, this beauty here is not here to stay if we don't try to protect it."
if we damage one single hread of the web, the entire web is affected, this beauty here is not here to stay if we don't try to protect it."
I wiped my tears of joy nodding my head: "Life is demanding we take charge or our own circumstances to create and protect the life we want."
I wiped my tears of joy nodding my head: "Life is demanding we take charge or our own circumstances to create and protect the life we want."
A D Hope suggests in his poem Australia, that perhaps our barrenness and remoteness means we can grow something special here.
A D Hope suggests in his poem Australia, that perhaps our barrenness and remoteness means we can grow something special here.
Australians have much to learn about the sacred when it draws closer to the terror and fear, on which their civilisation was built and based.
Australians have much to learn about the sacred when it draws closer to the terror and fear, on which their civilisation was built and based.
Like the puzzles and strugles of the journey, the sacred offers and takes away.
Like the puzzles and strugles of the journey, the sacred offers and takes away.
A challenge to our survival in this dry timeless land is our never-ending fight with its constant floods and fires...
A challenge to our survival in this dry timeless land is our never-ending fight with its constant floods and fires...
and yet a promise of a better and more worthwhile life is always with us.
and yet a promise of a better and more worthwhile life is always with us.
People have all of the resources they need inside themselves to bring positive change in their lives ...
People have all of the resources they need inside themselves to bring positive change in their lives ...
... but many people are not in touch with natural world, for them it is nothing less or nothing more just the playground to use and play in while they can.
... but many people are not in touch with natural world, for them it is nothing less or nothing more just the playground to use and play in while they can.

The nature around us

breathes with life,
a piece of rock
seems dead
and passive
to our naked eye,
magnify it,
it becomes full of
intrinsically restless
molecules
atoms
and subatomic particles
vibrating
in high or slow
motions.

Everywhere you look,
the closer you look,
outside in
and inside out
you feel
life force vibration.

Science is magnificent
by giving us those
magnifying glasses
to view life
from a higher perspective,
by conducting
experiment
after experiment
to join in
all the missing links
on our empty map of universe,
and yet
the greatest obstacle in science
is illusion of knowledge,
by trying so hard
to answer all those open ended questions
we are missing the most important ellement:
"The question of existence and non-existence."

We all dream to live in harmony
with ourselves
with others
with the natural world
that spread all around us,
we want
so desperately
to find
the lost connections
that are still in place,
the relationship
between these
vibrational influences
and engergies
is forever,
without us knowing,
inextricably linked.

Physical energy
of things
we can see and touch,
is never lost,
just changes its form,
to the metaphysical.
Space and time
are paradigms of the mind.
Human thoughts,
all experiences
and events
in natural cycle of life
are eternally regenerating,
nature around us,
and in us,
is ever changing
and still the same.

Let this stirring vision
of a new natural world
inspire you
to walk out your dream
and create the seemingly
impossible.

Take a few moments to observe
the natural world around you,
inside out
and outside in,
the closer you look,
more you dip in
to the depths of these emotions
withing which
qualities
of protection
preservation
and righteousness
are being forged.
And whatever it is,
whichever
has the strongest reaction
let that be your cause.

So many of great
before us and now
view life from a higher perspective
not from a point of view
of personal gain,
for Steve Irwin
and Jane Goodall
it was
preservation of animal species
and their environments.
Their visions came from
their understanding
of the interconnected nature
of all natural beings
-the interrelated structure of reality.









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